I know that everyone can agree to a certain extent that staying positive every single day is a challenge for just about anyone. By nature, I am a moody person and have found it difficult to stay happy and positive for most of my life. Only in recent years that I have decided that my pessimism and cynicism do me more harm than good and since then I have been on a path to staying as positive as I can, even through the toughest times.
So here I am, as bubbly and positive as ever so I thought I’d share with you guys some of my tips on how I keep those negative thoughts at bay.
1. Look to people close to you for inspiration & motivation.
When you’ve got the dark clouds above your head, sometimes it’s difficult to remove yourself from that and see the positive side of things. I find that looking at the people closest to me and picking out their best qualities helps me get through things. For example, if work gets real tough, I remind myself all that my mum has been through with work to get to where she is, that no step of the way it was easy for her, but she’s here now and much stronger than she was when she first started.
Or if I’m having a particularly bad day, I try to pull positive energy from my more optimistic friends around me and learn from how they brush off the bad energy. Just remember that you learn best by observing those around you and that there is something you can learn from everyone that you know.
2. Stop complaining and start doing!
Complaining is just another form of procrastination or an excuse for you to not make a conscious decision to make changes about whatever is bothering you. It’s equivalent to you being angry at the things that you did not put effort into changing. Whether it be about turning up to places late, not achieving your desired weight goal, not having the job you love, or not being able to speak a certain language, whatever it is – you’re only not seeing results because you’ve not started making a start on where you want to be. Complaining is a behavior that I personally find extremely disruptive to my day as I find that when I complain, I am the one generating that negativity in my own life. It’s your choice on how you want today to go.
So the time next you feel fed up with your current weight – hit the gym. Fed up of not being able to speak a certain language – make a start, sign up to a course. Fed up of being late to everything – change your alarm clock and wake up earlier. Fed up of your current job – take up hobbies, acquire new skills and develop them. Make your changes today so you won’t have to waste another day being unhappy with whatever it is.
Your life is in your own hands. You can control it with a healthy mind frame.
3. Forgive and appreciate yourself.
After all the hard work of making changes to your life, don’t forget to take a minute – sit down and appreciate all your efforts and how far you’ve come. Making changes to your life is not about instant results, it’s about carving a new journey for your life and going on this long adventure with yourself. So if results are slow or if you slip up somewhere, remember that it’s not the end of the world! Don’t get bogged down in the slip up or the slow results, because then you’re being negative and unproductive, remember? 😉
So every now and then, give yourselves a pat on the back and acknowledge all the hurdles you’ve been through. Reward yourself with some positive thoughts about yourself – because if I’m going to go through all the efforts in spending years in bettering myself, might as well enjoy every step of the way right? 😉
4. What’s done is done.
Don’t look back regretting things, save your ‘shoulda, woulda, couldas’. Learn from it and move on.
Fixating on things you cannot fix is extremely unproductive to you moving forward with your life. The longer you complain, the longer you keep yourself in that state of negativity. Think about this, if you had quit complaining five minutes ago, you would’ve saved five more minutes of your day to enjoy the positive aspects of your life. Because what you CAN do is start fixing your day now by not ruining these next few moments that are about to come – with negativity.
5. Don’t ‘list’ the bad things in your life.
When you’re having a bad day, it’s easy to say that everything in this world is going wrong for you. But often this is untrue and all you’re doing is adding fuel to the fire and ruining your own day even further. The next time you’re about to list all the bad things in your life – stop right there. Why not cheer yourself up by remembering all the good things in your life? I know this sounds cheezy but it honestly works! It helps put into perspective that not everything is bad and it keeps you rational so that you can deal logically with whatever issue is at hand.
6. Surround yourself with positivity & BE the positivity.
Don’t forget that you’re not only ruining your own day with your negative thoughts, you’re also affecting others around you. So as well as making sure that you surround yourself with people with good energy, don’t forget to be other people’s good energy too!
7. Don’t waste your present, fearing your future.
We all do this. For example, starting at your new high school you worry if you’ll like the school, if you’re classmates will like you. Then when the time comes, you fit in fine and you like the school, but then you worry that you’ll all eventually go off to university, get separated. Will you find new friends? Will you like your university? Then the time comes and you fit in fine with the new crowd and you love the place. But then you’re about to graduate and you worry if you’ll find the job that you like? Will you be hired? Will your colleagues like you – will you like them?
What we often forget is that usually after worrying, more often than not, things usually work out fine! Which is a good thing! But you know what? It would have worked out even better if you didn’t spend months worrying about all of those things. All you have to focus on doing is making this moment count and working as hard as you can towards the goals that you are trying to achieve. For as long as you do that, you don’t need to worry about the future because you would’ve known that you’ve done your absolute best in that moment. And even if things don’t work out, you’ll still look back and know that there’s nothing to regret because you worked your hardest, tried your best and it just wasn’t meant to be – and it’s okay.
Just work on your present so that there will be no fears for your future and no regrets in your past.
That’s it guys! I hope you enjoyed reading that and maybe even found it somewhat useful! Or if you guys have any tips of your own, don’t forget to comment and share your thoughts below! I love getting new positivity tips ❤
Photography by Tom Shigeru Stannard (@tomshigeru)